Too bad this episode was done after The Pitt's wedding. Maybe Jen could have realized the affect not inviting her Mom at the wedding would have on her later in life. If only Monica could have talked to her the way she did Chandler concerning his Dad, things might have been different. I know there are a lot of mights, could haves, etc but you got to admit, it was pretty similar.
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Well, you have to consider: one is a television show. The other is real life.
I remember watching an episode on some short-lived TV series about ten years ago - I forget the series, only that is starred the woman who played Mary Tyler Moore's friend on the, er, Mary Tyler Moore show.
ANYWAY, the show was about a son who borrows his mom's car, damages it, then lies about it to her. He then goes on to fantasize that if he simply comes clean, his mother will forgive him and all will be well. This is done via one of those dream sequences where he imagines his mother as a June Cleaver-type who hugs her son for admitting the truth. (The scene was shot in black-and-white and with the characters wearing clothes from the 50's to further emphasize the point.) However, when he finally admits to his mother what he's done, she is furious with him, says that she can't trust him any more, and when he tells her that he'd hoped she would forgive him like June Cleaver would, she responds, "It'll take a lot more than thirty minutes to work this out."
I thought that was a good point. Serious, deeply emotional problems just don't get resolved in two pages of dialogue and a fade. As much as we want to empathize with these characters and imagine that they're real, they're not.
I admired the early Friends episodes for having lingering unpleasant emotions that would carry over from episode to episode - especially surrounding Ross and Rachel. That made it seem a bit more real, and the breakup was especially painful. That's what made the series appealing to me.
But Jennifer Anniston and her mother are not part of a TV series, and what passes between them is not something we can pass judgment on. Perhaps JA will come in later years to regret not inviting her mother. Perhaps she will always feel that it was the best possible solution to an unpleasant problem. Perhaps she'll never think about it. We don't know; we aren't in possession of all the facts, and especially we don't have access to JA's state of mind.
But... well, yeah, from the bleachers it's easy to say that it would have been nice to see JA and her mother work out their differences and be able to enjoy an important life event together. I can sympathize with that sentiment.
But we should never try to draw parallels between any real-life situation and what happens on a television series. Most of us would have broken our necks after falling head-first off a two-story balcony, rather than dangling humorously in front of a window with Christmas tree lights wrapped around our leg. :)
-Richard
I just want to say that I agree with Richard and also add that Jennifer has said (in the Vanity Fair interview from last month) that it was aVERY tortoured decision for her to not invite her mother and that she thought about it long and hard and finally decided that she couldn't invite her for fear of her mother clouding the whole day and making it uncomfortable. so it wasn't just jennifer who cold heartedly didn't give a damn and didn't bother to invite her mother. She said only time will heal those wounds betwen her mom and herself and that they goes very deep, but that she loves her mother very verr much a dmijsses he rtremendously but that the break nbetwen them is somethi g they both needs since her mother doesn't knwo where she ends and her dauthe rbegins and was living through Jennifer., jen even started crying when she talked about her mother an dshe aid taht if anyone would have told her when she was 17 that she would get married without her mother she would never have believed them. Anyway, my point is that jennifer thought through this very long and hard and did what she thought was best and that it was never an easy decision for her and that she feel sad about her mom not being there but that it was the best decision for the time being..
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Yeah, I see what you all are saying. Yes, it's a sitcom and JA is real life but you gotta admit it was kind of ironic, the plot. (Except for the drag queen thing!)
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